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Parenting With Your Ex: Goals & Tools

By February 7, 2023February 16th, 2023Custody, Divorce

With the new year comes new possibilities. Setting parenting goals is as important as establishing your own goals for personal achievements. Here are two tools that might help break down and rebuild a better parenting relationship.

1. Private Mediation: When you return to court to address parenting issues, all California courts have a counseling service called Family Court Services (FCS) for you to attend. The service allows you to meet with a trained mediator at no cost to help parents reach agreements before going to court. These agreements can be turned into court orders by the judge. Family law rules require you to meet with a mediator before the hearing. If you’re not scheduled for court, you and your ex can hire a private mediator to assist you in resolving parenting conflicts.

2. Parenting Software Programs: If there are issues with the other parent being unreliable or untrustworthy, having a single point of parenting communication contact can help alleviate scheduling issues or, alternatively, serve to keep a record as evidence if you return to court. The program is typically set up where FCS, the judge, and attorneys involved in the case can tap into & your information exchanges. This third-party accessibility is useful for the court and others to see and identify specific parenting problems. One online program commonly used is Other parenting programs are also available online, and you should investigate which one would be best for your needs.

Parenting is a lifetime relationship with your ex. Finding new, effective, and successful ways of dealing with each other can only enrich the lives of both parents as well as those of the children.

Since March 20, 2020, the courts have maintained remote hearings in most family law jurisdictions and will continue to do so until further notice.

Arlene D. Kock

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